"Change the way you think, feel, speak and act, and you begin to change your world." ~ Vex King
It's always so refreshing when a self-help author keeps it real; and that's exactly what Vex King does in Good Vibes, Good Life.
If you're not afraid to read some hard truths about what it takes to raise your vibration, then you will hopefully find this book just as inspiring as I did!
About the Author
Vex King is a social media influencer, writer, mind coach and lifestyle entrepreneur. He experienced many challenges when he was growing up: his father died when Vex was just a baby, his family were often homeless and he grew up in troubled neighborhoods where he regularly experienced racism. Despite this, Vex successfully turned his whole life around. He now owns an empowering lifestyle brand, Bon Vita, which acts as a hub of positivity for anyone who wants to learn how to live a happier and more fulfilling life.
Through his popular Instagram account (@vexking), Vex has become a source of inspiration for thousands of young people. He started the Good Vibes Only #GVO movement to help others use the power of positivity to transform themselves and their lives into something greater.
Below is a simple outline of what you can expect to learn in each chapter:
Part One: A Matter of Vibes
"To bring an idea into existence, or rather, into your perception, you must match its vibrational frequency. The more 'real' or solid something is to you, the closer you are to it vibrationally. This is why when you truly believe in something and act as if it were already true, you increase the chances of it coming to you in your physical reality." (p. 16-17)
Our thoughts, emotions, words and actions must align with what we want.
The vibrations we put out are always pulling in stuff that's vibrating at a similar frequency to us.
The feelings we put out into the Universe will be returned to us through matching vibrations.
Part Two: Positive Lifestyle Habits
"Surround yourself with people who are vibin' higher than you. Be around people who are feeling better than you are. Energy is contagious." (p. 27)
When you spend more time with people who add value to your life and elevate your mood, you'll begin to adopt their encouraging thinking patterns and reflect their vibrations back at them.
Studies have shown that practicing power poses for 1-2 minutes a day can increase your confidence hormones by 20%, and decrease your stress hormones by 25%.
Stay clear of people who gossip and create drama. You'll notice that, more often than not, people who spend their time gossiping are the ones who seem to complain or find comfort in misery.
The more you count your blessings, the more blessings you'll have to count.
Part Three: Make Yourself a Priority
"It's not selfish or a sign of weakness to distance yourself or walk away from those who constantly bring down your vibe. Life is about balance. It's about spreading kindness, but it's also about not letting anyone take that kindness away from you." (p. 77)
Your longest relationship in life is with yourself. Only when you manage this relationship well can you manage your relationship with others.
Always review your behavior's and make an effort to change any that are toxic - towards yourself or others. This isn't only how you grow, it's also an act of self-love. You're showing yourself that you deserve better than the behaviors limiting your progress.
You don't have to be an expert to realize that relationships should be empowering.
If you're with someone who isn't willing to get better, you may be wasting your time. You can't change those who aren't ready to change.
Simplify your circle of friends. Keep those who add value to your life; remove those who don't. Less is always more when your less means more.
You can outgrow clothes, hobbies, jobs, friends - and even family members. We evolve past things that don't contribute to our joy and wellbeing.
Protect your own energy first.
What people say about you says more about them than about you.
Part Four: Accepting Yourself
"You won't be important to other people all the time, and that's why you have to be important to yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. Take care of yourself. Encourage positive self-talk - and become your own support system. Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself. Don't rely on others." (p. 127)
People tend to enjoy being around, and fall in love with, those who gracefully accept themselves. For this reason, self-love is a vital element in building strong relationships.
Don't let socially constructed ideas about beauty lower your self-esteem. There are no rules to beauty. Accept and love yourself as you are. Embrace your flaws and get comfortable in your own skin. Wear your imperfections like they don't need a season to be fashionable.
Value your inner beauty. People become so focused on changing their physical appearance - but it's far less common to change the way you think and act.
The truth is that, either way, you're going to be judged, whether you live life on your own terms or on other people's.
Learn to forgive yourself.
Part Five: Manifesting Goals - Mind Work
"Positive thinking is the act of choosing ideas that empower you over those that limit you." (p. 162)
You can't move forward with thoughts that hold you back.
Your goal isn't to get rid of negative thoughts; it's to change your response to them.
If you want to change your belief, you have to disprove your current belief by finding evidence to support the belief you want.
What you verbalize will eventually materialize. You have the power to talk aspects of your reality into existence.
Make sure you surround yourself with people who are feeding you empowering thoughts.
Words can hurt, help or heal. There's power in everything you write and say. Your message is significant; be wise with it.
Part Six: Manifesting Goals - Taking Action
"It's not about where you're at. It's about what you're doing about where you're at." (p. 205)
Change requires action.
Growth takes place when you are challenged, not when you are comfortable.
Consistency leads to results.
We are what we repeatedly do.
You don't need it all figured out.
Practice patience regularly.
You're not missing out on anything great if you're using that time to make your life greater.
Be wiser with your attention and energy.
Part Seven: Pain and Purpose
"Occasionally we experience the same obstacles over and over again, because we still have learning to do. It might be that we haven't learned our lesson properly." (p. 245)
Lessons repeat themselves.
The things that you're naturally drawn towards aren't random; they're picking you out int he same way that you're pursuing them. It really is as simple as this.
Money is merely energy - neither good nor bad, and unlimited in our infinitely abundant Universe. Make money to assist you, not to complete you.
Happiness doesn't come from other people, from places or things. It comes from within.
To sustain happiness, you must work towards self-mastery. It's an inward journey that requires substantial spiritual growth.
Embrace what is.
Remember that there's a lesson in every challenge, a lesson in every failure, which means your failures don't have to be failures at all; they're just twists in your path to greatness.